world is smaller....

i dun think the world is flat... but i do think it's getting smaller. long long time ago, families probably travel by themselves... and are somehow self sufficient...

then these families met, and figured it's probably a good idea to travel together... for safety.

then they decided that they should stop travelling and settle down in one place. start planting stuff, one cow and a few chickens should do the trick.

then came barter.... then money.... then phone lines... then internet...

and now... all the villages in the world have become one. the world shrunk. each country is like a villager. some have declared themselves the head. each one scrambling to specialise in something that would make them useful in some way to the village.

each country is like a person... coz it is made up of people. so, naturally, the villagers would still like to be self sufficient to a certain extent... they will still plant their own padi... own their own parang...trust their fellow neighbours?? not so easily...

what are we gonna do for a living? looks like cyberjaya is made to be share-services centre... we are gonna be backend!!??? sigh... shall we not re-direct? is there nothing more exciting and rewarding that we can do??

ok... now i'm going to read the world is flat... let's see what thomas said...

my speech...

is so good... i also have to put it up!! :)

hello! and good evening ladies & gentlemen.. first and foremost, i'll like to thank selina for the honour of being her bridesmaid and for the opportunity to speak... (she knows me pretty well, and yet have decided to take the risk, making the request all the more special and all the more touching)... so, thank you.

i'm the official matchmaker for yean and selina and i am very proud of it! (by the way, where is my chu kiok chou?!)

for those who don't know me, my name is poh chin. i have known yean since he was 8. and to me, he has always been the sweetest guy on earth. at one point in time, we were hanging out together for quite a bit... and we were discussing really "chim" stuff like what kind of woman he would want as his partner.

armed with that information, i went into PSA where i met my dahling - selina. she was seated in the cubicle next to ming. she had me at "harlo!"

when i saw her, i saw the word "MATCH" blinking above her head... she smiled! and then, there were little bright lights going round the work "MATCH"!! i believed that she was all yean had ever dreamt of~

so, all i did was i messaged yean via MSN "guess wat? i found your dream girl"...

then, there was no turning back.

he saw, he liked, he went for it.

how did he do it?

it started with a lunch in cyberjaya. there, they were formally introduced. although yean had already done groundwork and knew who she was, what she does, how she looked like and that she goes to fitness first. selina had no idea!

yean liked selina so much, he went for steps class in fitness first. those who know yean, they would never have imagined him doing dancy steps or participating in a steps class!!!!! suprise, suprise... he excelled in it! then he showered her with mp3s, stored in nifty looking thumb drives.

selina came to me one day and asked "why is your friend always giving me mp3s? i have these songs already!"

he was doing a lot of "training" in cyberjaya. we had starbucks delivered to our desks, mash potatoes delivered when braces were tightened, magnum ice cream, famous amos cookies... they say sweet stuff makes you happy... yep, we were happy to see yean.... always!

and isn't ironic that yean, who before meeting selina, never allowed anybody to take his photo.. was suddenly appearing in photos snapped by the ever trigger happy selina... and he was smiling in those photos!!!

isn't it amazing?? the power of love???.....

we wondered if he would succeed... i mean selina is smart, gorgeous, always hungry and yet body beautiful and extremely popular with everybody in the office. her smile, braces and all, truly brightens up your day. what are yean's chances???!

for those who knew yean well, they would know it all boils down to ROI. looking at the probability, it would not have been a strategic move to invest! he was eligible, but it was stiff competition out there. but for once, he threw ROI out the window, and did what his heart told him to do.

we knew he had succeeded when he was online on MSN and YM and there were no more messages coming in enquiring on selina and when she logs off, he disappears too!

out group of friends were very happy for him when selina and him got together. reason being, he simply deserves it! after all that effort! and they make a wonderfully cute couple. both very much go getters, both religiously believes in ROI, both love eating!

so, with such a gem in hand, yean would be very willing to let go of his very colourful past. now, can i invite yean on stage? (yean comes up)

(music to start)
yean, you've had your share of fun. and tonight, there is a need for closure! it's time to say farewell.... to .... tara patrick!!!.... debbie dallas!!! monica beluci!!!...sukaporn!!!... (his best of buddies to come up to stage, dressed in beautiful dresses and do lap dances and get group hug!)

yean, say goodbye to them.. and we look forward to your 25th anniversary, birth of your 13th child and many many more happy memories.

cherish selina always, and selina, don't worry... these guys won't let him bully you.

here's a toast to yean and selina! enjoy the journey...

teng kiu...

groom's speech....

was so super touching, have to put it up (copyright!)

A very good evening to everyone here today, datuk-datuk, datin, beloved relatives, dear friends and neighbours.

Looking round the room today, its wonderful to see so many of our close friends and family celebrating our marriage. It means a lot to Selina and I that all of you could be here to share this day with us.

A special thank you to all of those who have travelled some distance to be here today. It is quite a humbling experience to realise that you have friends and family who care so much for you.

Not only do we have loved ones who have travelled from Kedah Penang, Ipoh, Air Tawar, Johor and Singapore, we are blessed with the presence of friends and family from as far as the UK, Hong Kong, New Zealand and Australia. Selina and I thank you for being here today.

I did have a great speech worked out for you today, but as I am now married, my wife has told me what to say instead.

First of all, I would like to thank Jamie, Selina's brother, for his kind words and wishes. Selina and I thank you for making the trip here, all the way from the UK, to help
us on our special day.

We wish Ying Ley, baby John and Tzu Tzu were here however we are delighted that Ying Ley is expecting and we anxiously await the arrival of the latest addition to your family.

We thank you for your generous gift to us which will come in handy when Selina and I purchase our future home. It is indeed an honor to have you as my brother in law.

A special thanks to Shireen, Selina's sister, Edwin and Cameron for traveling from New Zealand to share our joy on this day. Your help and presence here this last weeks has
indeed made it all easier. You are the sister I never had!

To my mother in law, Daisy, who has worked tirelessly for today working on everything from invites to food arrangements,

and my late father in law, John Ling, a great man I've come to know thru wonderful family photos, animated stories and more importantly thru Selina, Jamie and Shireen.

I wish I had a chance to meet you in person, however I know you are looking down upon us from heaven.

I thank you from the bottom of my heart:

Firstly for bringing such a wonderful daughter into this world, I'm still at awe every time I lay eyes on Selina and my heart skips a beat at the idea of us spending a lifetime together as man and wife.

Thank you for taking me into your loving family and making me feel so welcome. I hope I can be everything you want from a dutiful and loving son-in-law.

Thank you for all your support both financially and emotionally in preparation for this big day. I am indeed proud and humbled to call you "Me".

I want to especially thank my brother, Andrew, for all the love and support he has unselfishly given to me all my life.

From the bottom of my heart, I value the fact that he has fought many battles as the eldest son in my family so that door and roads are already open when I go thru them. I wish him and Yvonne happiness and joy in anticipation of him being a father in the very near future.

Selina and I thank you for all your help as the master coordinator of events today. You are the best brother anyone could wish for.

I would like to thank my parents whom have always loved and supported me through every stage of my life which, believe me, is no easy task.

They deserve a medal of endurance for all the patience they have shown me in guiding me on my journey from a boy to a man. I thank you for the many sacrifices you have made to instill in me, the values that will carry me forward in life.

Both Selina and I are forever grateful for all the support both financially and emotionally, for without you, there will be no event here tonight. I can only hope I live up to your expectations as a son. Ma & Pa, thank you.

To my wife Selina, I want you to know how lucky I feel today. You know everything about me and love me just the same. I have my faults, yet you still agreed to marry me.

We have been planning this wedding for a year now, although it seems like a lifetime. Well, I say "we", really Selina did all the work. My baby, I look forward to spending our lives together and I love you with all my heart.

To the bridesmaid, Poh Chin, my childhood friend. How can I ever thank you, for without you, I would have never have met Selina.

To my best man, Yih Keat, whom I've known for 18 years, you have always been and will continue to be a great friend. To Kent Ee, my buddy of 22 years, whom could not be here today, Selina and I thank you for your well wishes.

To all my buddies, thank you for all the good times and wish me luck in my latest adventure!

Special thanks to Andrew and Josie for agreeing to be emcees for tonight. I think everyone will agree that they have done one heck of a job! Andrew and Josie, Thank you!

Special thanks to all the bridesmaids for all their efforts in making this day an enjoyable one. You guys looked gorgeous today.

Carmen, Yarly, Eileen, Lai fong, Sofia,
Jenny, Min Foong, Sze Lynn and Angel. Selina and I thank you guys from the bottom of our hearts.

To all the Hing Tais! Cy Inn, Elwin, Terence, Danny, Jason Ching and Jason Tan, really appreciate the help in getting my bride!

To all our friends, relatives and colleagues who have helped us in planning and made special arrangements in coming here tonight, Selina and I thank you from the bottom of our hearts, this night would not be complete without your presence here! Cheers!

guess who?

photographers for selina's big day... SCH (the lucky one amongst the beauties) and lynn.... :)

clubbing

age is catching up fast...

we use to want to go to clubs where the "cool" people are... that would be where the older people hang out. "jump" was for 21 years and above. and we were denied entry!

now... we want to go to clubs where the "kids" don't hang out....

i guess that makes us the "cool" people??!!

"i wanna get married!"

it's funny how when my girlfriends say "i wanna just get married, give birth and stay at home", it's always when they are frustrated with work.

and when my guy friends say "i wanna get married" is when they have everything else under control (work, finances, etc)...

i suppose it's got something to do with the fairy tales we grew up reading... the princesses are always rescued by the princes......

changes in "wat do i wan?" posting

yay!!! i have just recently discovered one more thing that i wan... the fella must want to make me happy coz he would like to see me happy... tot that's a by default kinda thing. but apparently... i was mistaken. therefore, shall have to state it as a criteria...

best of buddies..

today i went for dinner with a friend... and my friend's friends from primary school... and i discovered something!!! they also tease each other's father's name! AND grandfather's name!!! (ever noticed how the guys never ever messed with their mother's names??!!) they also have certain words that will start them giggling, then rolling on the floor... words that would mean nothing to another person!

it's startling how similar they are to my group of friends from primary school... you'll get the same warm fuzzy feel when with this group of people... these friends whom have known each other for donkey years, tease each other mercilessly (unless there is a new friend in the midst - they will try very hard to minimise the teasing - but will tease nevertheless), all in good faith! and somehow, despite all the teasing... you just know that they know they would be able to count on each other... always!

one of my primary school friend (yean) told me, "i'm lucky to have buddies like them"... and i told him, "i think we are all lucky to have each other"!

i think credit will have to be given to yuen - my bestest international darling - who went far far away when she was 13. every time you come back, we gather... and i think that played a major role in keeping the group together. also thanks to yean for all the chinese new year gambling sessions. not to mention the many bbq sessions. and of course, football/ futsal which kept the guys together...

everybody should have friends from primary school... :)


p.s : daniel included as part of group... though not really from primary school... he is soooo farni...

then saturday nite...

super tired... but spirits lifted as the evening progressed... all the luis were very leng... and so were all the chais...

saturday morning...

saturday morning was "chip san liung" and tea ceremony... guys wore diapers and drank yucky stuff... talk about brotherhood... and yean finally gets his bride... chee muis looked gorgeous (as usual)... everybody happy~

sweetest fella on earth marries sunshine

last saturday, the sweetest guy on earth (year 1996, currently still ranked top 10) - yean - marries the drop of sunshine - selina ! there was a pre-wedding party on friday... and the following are some of the pictures taken by SCH...

what makes a man manly??!

now that we've pretty much defined "lui yan mei"... i have a question...

what is "lam yan mei"? what makes a man a MAN? :)

1. posture (must not stand/ walk like sotong)
2. confident
3. go getter

tummy?? (ar... not really... very man meh?????)

4. JC would say gentlemenly in a very natural manner! (like born to be gentlemen... must not be conscious effort and must not be fake wannabe kinda gentlemen.... muahahahahahaa)
5. funny - a must (but should not be too clowny kinda funny, not all the time anyways... you wanna laugh with him, not at him)
6. mature...can kua... but i think must have a bit of kid in him, otherwise no fun
7. able to make decisions... good or not, very subjective wor... but at least know what he wants
8.

wat else ar??

i look like a cotton bud

i have just straightened my hair... and i look like a cotton bud...

for all the aspiring "lui yans" out there... straightening you hair doesn't make you any more lui yan...

chicken rice theory

assumptions :
1) it's a standard plate of chicken rice
2) you are not too hungry nor too full
3) you are normal and like chicken more than rice


if you have a plate of chicken rice... and towards the end of the meal you have more chicken than rice on your plate, then you are likely to be one who is able to save... and vice versa. if you have just enough chicken to go with the rice, then you are probably the "ngam ngam" kind of person - the kind who would be waiting eagerly for the next month's pay cause you probably have RM5 left in your savings.

noted that my accoutant friends typically have more chicken left towards the end of the meal... and my sales friends typically have more rice towards the end of the meal... my nurse friend typically have only timuns left over towards the end of the meal...

demure and coy?

now that's new. have never been described as such. so had to look it up.

source : dictionary.com

demure

1. characterized by shyness and modesty; reserved.
2. affectedly or coyly decorous, sober, or sedate.


coy

1. artfully or affectedly shy or reserved; slyly hesitant; coquettish.
2. shy; modest (:)).
3. showing reluctance, esp. when insincere or affected, to reveal one's plans or opinions, make a commitment, or take a stand: The mayor was coy about his future political aspirations.
4. Archaic. disdainful; aloof.
5. Obsolete (hope not!). quiet; reserved. –verb (used without object)
6. Archaic. to act in a coy manner. –verb (used with object) Obsolete.
7. to quiet; soothe.
8. to pat; caress.


decorous (kakakakakakakaka.... ar... not really ler... but ujin's gf have definitely exhibit these symptoms!)

characterized by dignified propriety in conduct, manners, appearance, character, etc.


sober

1. not intoxicated or drunk.
2. habitually temperate, esp. in the use of liquor.
3. quiet or sedate in demeanor, as persons.
4. marked by seriousness, gravity, solemnity, etc., as of demeanor, speech, etc.: a sober occasion.
5. subdued in tone, as color; not gay or showy, as clothes.
6. free from excess, extravagance, or exaggeration: sober facts.
7. showing self-control: sober restraint.
8. sane or rational: a sober solution to the problem. –verb (used with object), verb (used without object)
9. to make or become sober: (often fol. by up).


sedate (hope not!)

1. calm, quiet, or composed; undisturbed by passion or excitement: a sedate party; a sedate horse. –verb (used with object)
2. to put (a person) under sedation.


yay!! learnt alot of new words today! ujin is really too kind... have to cyberly kiss him... *muacks*

lui yan mei...

my next year's resolution : to attain "lui yan mei". direct translation for "lui yan mei" would be women's scent! not literally of course... i do intend to take my bath daily... now, how do you define "lui yan mei"?

it's grace, it's class, it's feminine, it's gentle, it's soft, it's what makes you take a second look, it's all about being a woman, it's womanliness...

it does not necessarily mean long hair, it does not mean being dependent, it does not mean dousing oneself with perfume, it does not mean wearing dresses...

some people have it when they grow older... others seem to be born with it... some never ever attain it...

karina lau (hong kong actress) now has it. i think angelina jolie has it. most people seem to get it after giving birth...

i have no idea how i am going to achieve it. i suppose i'll be looking out for role models?? do let me know if you know what i'm talking about... and if you know of somebody i can take as role model... and if you have any idea how i can attain it...

home alone...

i love being home alone... having the whole place to myself... not doing anything in particular, and not having to explain to anybody why i am so happy not doing anything in particular...

i think one tends to be more responsible when one is home alone... you wash up coz u know nobody's going to pick up after you. you feed your pets coz they'll starve otherwise. you check the locks three....four times to ensure no buglars would have a chance at your digital SLR.

one can also strut around half naked/ stark naked!! liberating!~

measles... i think

day 1 : achy everywhere

day 2 - 4 : fever and still achy

day 5 : fever, less achy, kinda spotty

day 6 : no fever, not achy, alot more spottier

day 7 : very very spotty... actually, more like patchy, and a little bit itchy

day 8 : spotty and itchy

day 9 : hopefully better.....

timing is everything...

you might have wondered before, why is he marrying A and B.. when B is nicer, prettier and overally better?? why did she go into that industry which is totally unrelated to what she did before?? why did she go out with him?? why did they get the business??

i think it's all a matter of timing... A was there when he was ready. the offer came when she wanted to leave. he asked when she felt like it. they were there when they were needed. it's all a matter of being at the right place, at the right time... yes?

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achy and spotty

today i'm achy no thanks for some stupid fever.... and (horror of all horrors) SPOTTY.. no thanks to some stupid virus...

according to JC, it's mosquito mating season!! tot they mate year round since there are so many around... anyways, i hope the spots go away soon...

lost handphone?

i dreamt i lost my handphone!!! and all my contacts!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! so scared....

when did handphones become so important..? imagine having no handphone... no internet... i think without handphones and internet, we will be moving at a much more pleasant pace. age slower. work less. oh!! the secret to youthfulness!~

but it's just wishful thinking... we going full force ahead. there is no turning back now

change

note changes in october posting - "comments!! :)"

how to make a woman happy...(fwd)

an somebody said my list was too long...


How to Make a Woman Happy

It's not difficult to make a woman happy. A man only needs to be:
1. a friend
2. a companion
3. a lover
4. a brother
5. a father
6. a master
7. a chef
8. an electrician
9. a carpenter
10. a plumber
11. a mechanic
12. a decorator
13. a stylist
14. a sexologist
15. a gynaecologist
16. a psychologist
17. a pest exterminator
18. a psychiatrist
19. a healer
20. a good listener
21. an organizer
22. a good father
23. very clean
24. sympathetic
25. athletic
26. warm
27. attentive
28. gallant
29. intelligent
30. funny
31. creative
32. tender
33. strong
34. understanding
35. tolerant
36. prudent
37. ambitious
38. capable
39. courageous
40. determined
41. true
42. dependable
43. passionate
44. compassionate

WITHOUT FORGETTING TO:
45. give her compliments regularly
46. love shopping
47. be honest
48. be very rich
49. not stress her out
50. not look at other girls

AND AT THE SAME TIME, YOU MUST ALSO:
51. give her lots of attention, but expect little yourself
52. give her lots of time, especially time for herself
53. give her lots of space, never worrying about where she goes

IT IS VERY IMPORTANT:
54. Never to forget:* birthdays* anniversaries * arrangements she makes


How to make a man happy
1. Show up naked
2. Bring food

i feel like a piece of char siu

i feel like a piece of char siu from the char siu shop in tengkat tung shin .... the char siu that's soooooo fat it melts in your mouth...

somebody has to do the no-more-rain dance soon... need to play tennis... need to fit in dress made 3.5kgs ago... aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrggggggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhh!!

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societal pressure..

have you ever gotten angry or upset or disappointed or frustrated at a love one because of what other people think?

upset at him coz he does not have a job, or not earning as much as you, or wants to be a house husband and take care of the kids, or business is not doing too well... even though he has been an extremely loving and caring partner otherwise... just coz it's expected (especially in asian society) that the man takes care of the lady?

upset at her for not bearing a child or a son, even though she wants to as much as you do, or even if you know for a fact that your chromosomes determine the gender, and even though she has been a wonderful wife otherwise... just coz your whole family expected her to do so?

disappointed at her for not having the 38-24-38 vital stats when you are good looking although you totally enjoyed her company just coz society expects a good looking guy to have a good looking girlfriend?

frustrated at yourself for not having a partner although you are having the time of your life being my yourself or just being with your friends just coz the whole wide world thinks you should have a partner in order to be "complete"? (dun worry... i'm dun feel it yet)

isn't it sad sometimes, how we would not be happy just coz other people expect us to not be happy? isn't it tiring how we sometimes try to prove to the whole wide world that we are really happy when everybody else thinks we are not? can we just say f*** everybody else, it does not matter what they think as long as we are happy? what if these "everybody else" we are important as well?

action, not talk only...

i think i get most ideas when i am busy busy busy... when i have no time to pursue the ideas, that's when they will pop up. when i have all the time in the world... *nothing*

and no matter how brilliant my ideas are, i'm sure there is somebody out there who would have thought of something similiar. i guess the difference between successful people and not-so-succesful people is ... (drumrolls..) "action"! the successful ones are just the ones who got off their butt and do something about those ideas, and follow through.

it's funny how most of us would spend the earlier, most energetic part of our lives executing other people's dreams...

so happy!~~

i'm so happpiiii !!! that i have 139 hits liao.... counter was on since 2 Nov 2006.. that's 21 days! that's an average of 6.6 hits per day. with aggressive advertising and by word of mouth... i'll soon be at 4000 hits per day! i also have a total of 58 comments for 45 postings... that's 1.3 comments per posting! soon it'll be 7 comments per posting! (see? not greedy)

they say, you won't achieve what you don't measure!! so, here's to number crunching!

CONGRATULATIONS!~~~

here's to yean (sweetie) and selina (sunshine)... the happy couple got married today!! yippee!!!

they can start working on the 13 kids (my pension fund)!!

p/s: photos - akan datang..

got this fwd today...

An 80 year old man was sitting on the sofa in his house along with his 45 years old highly educated son.

Suddenly a crow perched on their window.The Father asked his Son, "What is this?"

The Son replied "It is a crow".

After a few minutes, the Father asked his Son the 2nd time, "What is this?"

The Son said "Father, I have just now told you "It's a crow".

After a little while, the old Father again asked his Son the 3rd time, What is this?

At this time some expression of irritation was felt in the Son's tone when he said to hisFather with a rebuff.."It's a crow, a crow".

A little after, the Father again asked his Son the 4th time, "What is this?"

This time the Son shouted at his Father,"Why do you keep asking me the same question again and again, althoughI have told you so many times 'IT IS A CROW'. Are you not able to understand this?"

A little later the Father went to his room and came back with an old tattered diary,which he had maintained since his Son was born. On opening a page, he asked his Son to read that page. When the son read it, the following words were written in the diary :-"Today my little son aged three was sitting with me on the sofa, when a crow wassitting on the window. My Son asked me 23 times what it was, and I replied to himall 23 times that it was a Crow. I hugged him lovingly each time he asked me thesame question again and again for 23 times.I did not at all feel irritated I rather felt affection for my innocent child".

While the little child asked him 23 times "What is this", the Father had felt no irritation inreplying to the same question all 23 times and When today the Father asked his Son thesame question just 4 times, the Son felt irritated and annoyed.

So.. If your parents attain old age, do not repulse them or look at them as a burden, but speak tothem a gracious word, be cool, obedient, humble And kind to them. Be considerate to your parents.

From today say this aloud,"I want to see my parents happy forever. They have cared for me ever since I was a littlechild.They have always showered their selfless love on me.They crossed all mountains and valleys without seeing the storm and heat to make me a person presentable in the society today".

p/s: i think dad was more patient with son because it was expected! (young children not expected to know stuff) but when it happens to dad, son is afraid... the person who used to teach, nurture and protect has changed! fear converted to anger maybe? but i suppose whatever the reason... there is no excuse... must be patient... kacang must not forget the kulit...

brilliant!!!

just read in the papers the other day... about one muhammad yunus. a nobel peace prize winner who truly deserves the prize.

what did he do? well, briefly, he give small loans out to the poor, to help them get out of poverty cycle. loans are mainly given out to women because "...in the families in which the women received the loans, the children were better cared for, the houses were better maintained... He found that women spent the money to improve their families' lives, while men often squandered it on luxuries or drugs". also because "...virtually all of the women repaid the loans, whereas men frequently fell behind in payments or defaulted...". this bank (Grameen Bank) has repayment rate of 98%!

the bank also follow up on borrowers. they hold training on banking procedures and dishes out financial advice. they further educate these borrowers on sanitation, nutrition, education and birth control. borrowers would also have to adhere to 16 principles which include educating their children, providing latrines, refusing to pay or accept dowries, etc. all these ensure the end of poverty cycle.

borrowers are organised into groups of five. the poorest two will be granted to loans first. if they do not default within a certain time frame, the others will receive their loans. peer pressure and group support plays an important role. weekly meetings are held to provide group therapy and support.

brilliant i say.... a brilliant man indeed to have thought of all these finer details. how's this for better distribution of wealth?

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2006/10/13/AR2006101300535.html

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2006/10/13/AR2006101300211.html

boobs and taugeh

for the record... this observation was made a couple of years back. but this topic came up again when a friend said "chinese girls seems to have bigger boobs nowadays!"...

NOT! not unless they are from Ipoh that is! ever noticed how ipoh girls (generally) have bigger boobs and fairer skin??

it's the taugehs (the short and fat and juicy taugehs, which another friend swears is attributable to the water in Ipoh!!)

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o - my - gawdddddddddddddddddd..... i just found the little "bug" which has caused my "Previous post" to appear as a clickable item, and which prevented my friend's blog from being listed as a clickable item.

it was a " mark that i had left out!!!

hats off to all those programmer ppl who resolve these bugs day in, day out....

chicken shits i dislike alot alot

i dislike very very much, people who are chicken shit... i think courage is a very important trait. one should be brave enough to go for what they want, one should be brave enough to confront a situation, one should be brave enough to own up to what one did, one should be brave enough to speak the truth, brave enough to face the consequences...

please slap me silly the next time you feel i have displayed traits of a coward...

enlightened... yet again

yean said ... "we should not let little things bother us; if we do, we'll just end up being angry bitter pricks"

true true...

he continues ... "we should let little things pass, but then again, don't let other ppl step all over u ler" ...

as teik lee always said, air yang tenang jangan disangka tiada buaya (calm water don't think don't have crocodiles). i suppose as time passes by, all of us would have mellowed down a little. we let the little things pass. but don't ever think to test our limits. letting little things pass and being forgiving are two separate things all together!

who the #$% do we think we are???

i think some of us are just die hard optimists. we like a person. we notice some flaws. and we decide that the person will change in time.

i think i speak with authority on this matter. you can never, ever, EVER change a person. nobody can do it, unless the person wants to change in the first place. i would also have to agree that intending to change another is unfair in the first place! one should love the other, flaws and all. if you don't like the flaws, then don't be with that person. simple, no?


rite, it's not that simple... somehow, we would want that very person. and we would like to think that the person would love us enough to change for us... sigh. what can i say? die hard optimists we are...

soul mate

dictionary.com says :
1. a person with whom one has a strong affinity.
2. One of two persons compatible with each other in disposition, point of view, or sensitivity.


have you ever found someone with whom you like at first sight? share alot of same tots? love the same things? feel the same way? alot of the times..?


if yes, i suppose you would be one of the few lucky ones who found your soul mate..


a wise friend (yes, i have alot of very wise friends) once told me, the fact that you have the chance to cross path is already a great thing.. afterall, there are billions and trillions of people in this world.. what are the chances that you would meet this person... and actually have something to say to this person... AND actually have a reason to meet up with the person again... AND have the opportunity to build a friendship???!!


not only that, but share the same tots and feel the same way about alot of things???!!!!!!!



cherish them... and do not take things for granted~

when i am a millionaire...

when i become a millionaire... i will have a retirement home...

this home will be by the beach, have it's own field and farm.

in this home, old people will have a life... they will dance, swim, sing, date, get married, have sex??, online chats, work, play mahjong etc...

work? did i say work? yes... i did say work. i think working will help keep their mind active.

the initial bunch of old folks will have to be selected very carefully as they will be the ones to set the pace and to initiate the culture. the core needs of the home would need to be identified and if possible be fulfilled by the people in the home.

then their strengths will be identified and will be utilised to provide services to others, in exchange for funds to sustain the home.

then there will be branches in different countries... and they will have exchange programmes to enable travelling.

yay!!! happy old people with a life...

now... all i have to do, is become a millionaire..

strictly classical

attended a concert today... performer was none other than pei sze! our superstar classmate from sekolah menengah subang jaya I !!! wooo hoooo!! this hot babe plays a mean piece of classical.. will post pix by wed... and that's a promise!

http://www.joanneyeoh.com.my/

so so proud of me friend... :)

photos in blog

how to upload photos in blog - for dummies

1) register at www.flickr.com

2) log in using yahoo account

3) upload pix there (reduce size with photoshop or ACDSEE)

4) right click at picture and copy the link

5) go to blogger, and click on icon that enable you to put picture links and paste link.

today i got smarter

today i got smarter... than i already am...i spoke to a web guru (of sorts)... and was enlightened to the many intricate details of blogging for a living. they are as follows :

1) get Adsense and earnUSD (www.google.com/adsense)

2) need to ping petalingstreet.org

.. now... how to ping - for dummies...
first, update blog with latest post.
then, go to petalingstreet.org (you would have registered with them, of course)
use their engine to PING your site to their PORTAL.... whatever that means...
then petalingstreet.org will list your post in their site... and if ppl are interested, they will click and access your site!! brilliant!!!

anymore wise words?

2 new people in the world

today... within the span of one hour... i was told about 2 new people in this world

1) sebastian theron goh (daddy : terence, mommy : saint) born 7-11-2006
his pictures should be available in no time in http://www.terenceg.com/blog/

and

2) Joshua Leong Kar Jun (daddy : Edwin, mommy : Cara) born 9-11-2006, 7 lb 11 oz (3.505 kgs) at Royal London Hospital by C-sec at 12:35pm.


congratulations to everybody!! hats off to the mommies and daddies for all efforts put in to bring these two cuties into the world..

survey

did a survey earlier... i asked women of all ages... which guy would they choose?

option 1 : a guy who loves them more they love the guy, but lack drive and ambition

option 2 : a guy whom they love more than the guy love them, but very driven and ambitious

Conclusion :
1) women age 25 and below goes for option 2
2) women age 30 and above goes for option 1
3) women age 25 - 30 refuse to settle for either options. they want a guy who loves them more and yet are driven and ambitious...

noted that most married women advise to go for option 1... i suppose they should be the wiser ones...?

passionate or selfish?

have u ever realised that people who pour their heart, soul and money into something that they believe in... are viewed as selfish until they succeed??

and when these ppl succeed, suddenly they are viewed as passionate??

isn't it weird how people withdraw support when one need it most... and volunteer it when everybody else is already doing so?

only 999,963 more to go...

to my 1,000,000th hits! :) then i'm gonna blog for a living... so, time to make sure i reach that number.... aggressive advertising from now on!!! spare nobody!!!! muhahahahaahhaaha

just do it?

have you ever done something just because you felt like doing it? did you regret it?

i think you'll hardly ever regret doing things that you do just cause you felt like doing it! i suppose life's too short for regrets... afterall nobody will know if the consequences are for better or for worse! unless there are two of yous, and yous were in the exact same circumstances, one does A and the other does B... but that will never happen.

so, i suppose regret should not even exist! even if they do, regrets are better than what ifs...


what if i had bought that dress...

isn't it funny..

isn't it funny how in alot of the times, the friends whom you'll call when you need help are not the ones whom you'll call when you wanna have fun?

gotta get our priorities right...

SLR

it was in dec 2005 when i first held an SLR... a Nikon D70. took a few pictures which i thought was pretty darn good! nearly bought a Canon 350D in jan 2006... further inspired by pictures taken in Cara& Edwin's wedding and Teik Lee & Lena's wedding (www.thephotoz.com). now, i have a Canon 400D.

before every shot, i would have in my head how the picture would turn out. unfortunately, it's not turning out the was i had expected it to!!!!!! *sob*

it's fun though... i shall presevere!!! and by end of 2007, i'll be taking very nice pictures, capturing all the moments.. too! :)

the meaning of being classy...

what's the meaning of being classy? Does it depend on how expensive the person's clothes are? How good looking the person is? How much the person earns? If he/ she drives a porche? How he/ she speaks?

I think class simply means the person knows what say or do at any one time. some things need not be untrue to hurt. some truths need not be told.


then again, i'm for constructive feedback... so, it's perfectly fine to give constructive feedbacks if not in public... at an opportune moment.. :)

then again..

Then again... if you really really have to compare, then remember, it's not WHEN you start... it when you START!... there are some late bloomers out there... it's never too late for anything.

happiness

i've finally attained enlightenment! recipe for happiness/ contentment is.... *drumrolls*....
not comparing!!

do you realise that you can be happily going about your own life and then one day, you meet up with somebody you know... and that person is doing very well (career, family, love, finance, looks, etc)... then all of a sudden, you are unhappy... why? because you compared!

if the person is somebody you don't really know, the impact is not so great. if it's somebody you know... and it's a peer!!.... same age!!!... then die.. you'll be depressed the very next day!!

to overcome this, just don't compare! we can't really compare one person to another anyway... there is no two person on this earth which is exactly alike.

my first cyber shift

now that my shift from http://2senworthoftots.blogs.friendster.com/2senworth_of_tots/ is complete, i'm all ready to receive your valued comments!! type away!!

korp kun ka

korp kun ka to my dear hsin yee... i've now got a counter on my blog!!! yay!!! now i, too, quit job and blog away for a living... now, all i need is a couple of million hits~

expectations

alot of relationships go wrong because of expectations... or rather expectation gap.

don't you think we tend to have higher expectations of people with whom we are close to? for instance, if you are in a relationship with this guy, your expectations of him will be higher than if you were not with him. i suppose this is normal coz you would be factoring him into your life. as in... ok, i will be with him for the rest of my life, he better be able to finance my shopping in Italy and my dinners in Paris with my best friend! but should you suddenly break up with this very same guy, it doesn't matter anymore, whether he has a career/ car/ house/ drive/ humour/ abs/ etc...

expectations also play a role in friendship maintenance. i remember a long long time ago... when we were in high school. we were in the same class for 5 long years. some have forged very close friendships. sadly, when we were forced to split up as some went to form 6 and some to college, some of these friendships disintegrated. these friendships could have been maintained if these friends had EXPECTED changes! had expected that... my good friend will find another good friend, won't be seeing him/ her everyday, won't be spending as much time together, won't be the first to know if she had a tiff with her stupid bf! if those changes were EXPECTED, then when these friends meet up, there would be no hard feelings. precious time would be spent catching up with each other instead of interrogation as to why we were not the first to know!!

i also remembered a time when i was "allowed" to be late for mamak sessions. that was when i was working like a dog in PwC and Prudential SA. my friends were definitely more forgiving than now. with my new job, i am expected to be on time! tardiness would not be tolerated. this, is also due to changes in expectations. when they had expected me to be late, it was forgivable..

so, i suppose key to a happy relationship would be to adjust one's expectations?

of course only to a tolerable level.... afterall, he must be able to finance those dinners in Paris!

yay!!!

October 29, 2006

yay!! happy day today!! bought my SLR (finally).... so, this blog will be on holiday for a short while... at least until i figured out how to use the camera! :) then we get lots of pictures!! yay again!

i must say, the photographers for Teik Lee & Lena's wedding is pretty darn good!! Just like the photographers for Cara & Edwin's wedding! These are super talented people who deserve a mention!! (applause!!)

also happy to report that I have bought the lonely planet phrase book - Thai. So, let us all speak thai in 2007!! Sat wat dee -kah!!!

male dominate - why?

Ever wondered why male dominate the world? (most of the areas anyway)... could it be due to the way we introduce each other?

"Hi! This is Peter, and this is Peter's girlfriend/wife, Jane" <-- you remember Peter and that he has a girlfriend/wife.

Then Peter and Jane broke up. You see Jane on the street.. and you whisper to your friend "Say, isn't that Peter's ex-girlfriend/wife?"

The guy is remembered, the girl is remembered in association to the guy. sigh... no identity...

So girls, in future, introduce as follows :
"Hi! This is Jane, and this is Jane's boyfriend/husband, Peter" !

On the other side of the fence

Grass always looks greener on the other side. So, I suppose only the wise ones know that one should always appreciate what one has in hand and enjoy this part of the long and unpredictable journey.

Then again, we were told time and again to not be complacent.

Such a fine line... we must strive for excellence and yet learn to be contented...

my first crush is getting married

*sob*.... my first crush is getting married! sigh... this calls for some serious heavy duty retail theraphy :)

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!! May you have a wonderful marriage. As a wise friend once tried to drum into my head, "Enjoy the journey!"...

2007

next year's resolution will have to be.... cheaper.

1) Learn mandarin

2) Learn thai (the whole lonely planet phrase book) - just bought the phrase book today! (29 Nov 2006) :)

3) To lose 4kg

Anymore suggestions? This is subject to change... until 1 Jan 2007.

4) To learn Digital SLR, and to be good enuf to get photo jobs!

5) To learn Hokkien (added 17 Nov 2006)

6) To get nice abs! (added 2 Dec 2006)

7) To buy at least one new lense for camera (added 2 Dec 2006)

8) To attain "lui yan mei" (added 6 Dec 2006)

bkk

bangkok... loved it! loved the city, the people, the markets (jj & suan lum), the tuk tuk, the energy, the mango sticky rice, the sparkly gem showroom, the massage, the slippers, the thai pants (sarong type), the temples,... etc etc

rat race... to run again or not to run again

imagine u are this rat... in this building with many different wings, all connected... with many many flight of stairs. on top of each building is cheeseland! path is quite clear... just run up the stairs. if u get bored, run to connecting wing, and continue up the stairs. sometimes, the building is not very tall, u get to cheeseland faster. and sometimes, u run in circles and never find cheeseland. and sometimes, u might be running downwards when u think u are running up. but it's pretty predictable. just keep running. and be careful of other rats going the same direction...

then at every level, there is a special exit. once u exit, it's dark outside. no longer within the building. but u know there is also cheeseland out there... somewhere... u've heard stories... stories of cheese so much u swim in it... cheese so easy, u dun have to run very long nor very far... then again, there are also stories of rats being eaten by owls before they can run very far. stories of rats getting lost, and never never finding cheeseland... very uncertain out there in the dark. but if u work at it, take the right steps, cheeseland can be nearer than you think!

so, here i am... out here in the dark. the door to the building still visible... barely. the lights are fading out. walking around a little aimlessly. cheeseland nowhere in sight. then suddenly, a door back into the buildings is open... right in front of me. do i run in? what do you think?

lost

ever felt lost? no? let me tell you how it feels like...

imagine you are a tiny piece of white styrofoam (white = boring), floating out in the big big ocean. no shore in sight... not a ship/vessel/sampan in sight... no direction... just floating in whatever direction the wave brings you.

then a very wise and very optimistic friend (another friend, i have tonnes of very wise friends!) told me... "sounds good. styrofoam is good... luckily u feel like styrofoam. very light, won't sink. somemore white in colour, easy to spot. last very long, won't bio-degrade! somemore if u find your direction already, add a sail, u will move very very fast in that direction!!"...

now, that is positive thinking...

always check before making a scene

G = girlfriends out for movie (world trade centre)

C = girl at cinema counter


G : xcuse me, how come our tickets are J6, J14, and J15? you print out wrongly ar? we asked for J13, J14, J15 wor...

C : you bought the tickets from different counter, so maybe you requested for different seats?

G : kenot be!!!! we bought all tickets from her! we paid 27 ringgit... for 3 tickets.. din buy from different counter lar...

C : but it is stated that this ticket was bought from different counters... actually bought on different dates! for different movies!!

G : let me see... (eyes big big)... oh.. hehe... nvm...


after leaving the counter very quickly,

G : OMGaaaaaaaaaaaaaawwdddd, so embarassing!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (lol)... J14 and J15 was for rob-b-hood... we watched last week!!! today's tickets J4, J5, J6!!!! how long should we avoid this cinema ar???!!!

lesson learnt : always check carefully before making scene
mitigating factor : nobody was in line (thank gawd!!)