i have recently posted a rather controversial posting on this blog... (i finally got what my friends mean when they say controversial gets readers!)
and there was a comment which advised "do not burn bridges" and that "i might need them some day"...
i have not seen alot of things throughout these years of my life, but i have seen one thing. when times are good and things are going great, friends would be aplenty. when times are bad... really bad (many people may not experience these kind of bad times), those are the times when you would know, who your true friends are. and if they are true friends, the bridges would not burn so easily.
so, are all friends equal? ask yourself, aren't there friends that you would do more for? go the extra mile?
and just for the record, i do not make friends thinking they may come in handy one day.
AND it's not the numbers, it's the quality...
30 comments:
Hei my dear fren..You are truly right! Only when you are experiencing bad times, then you'll started to see clearly who's your 'true' friends are! Or perhaps, if you started to do insurance..then it'll also the time when you'll see it clearly.
Anyways, I'm glad I know you! and thanks for being there for me no matter when I'm in good/bad times! ~muaakkk muakkk~
If you look through different dictionaries i am sure you would find different definitions as to what the meaning of the word friend is but there is one i particulary like as states: a person attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard... just sharing a thought :)
I am not in either Group A or B ;
only came to know about the unfortunate incident when i read your entry;
going to comment anyway since already in public domain;
noted most entries anonymous - no guts to pen your name? / am not faming here ;
have been guilty myself of self-righteous;
and thru my experience will only come back to haunt you;
life's too short for that...
We are the neutral party of group a and b, hence we named ourselves group switzerland....looking at both sides of the stories posted, it's ridiculous to even discuss about it....we are sure that both groups of friends is important to you......there's up and downs in this FRIENDSHIP thingy....why do we have to draw a line between who's right and who's wrong?? at the end of the day....ADULTS will forget and forgive....so...why want to 'fight', 'bitch','defend' and 'offend' each other...Don't you enjoy both parties company?? To lose this great friendship because of this matter...it's a waste, so this is our 2 sen worth of tots to you.....
KM & JC
Hi there! I'm not from either of your small childish group of A or B and I thank god for not being in any of them or associated with you in any remote way. However, someone from one of the groups ask me to read your 'interesting' blog as a good way to kill time and boy was that person right! I find your self centered blog highly amusing and the comments that was generated from it even more amusing with both parties claiming to be the best of your friends (but that was mainly from the cliquish people). I guess you must be very proud and happy to generate so much attention from all the people around you that (apparently) care for you and claiming to be the best of your friends.
My advice to you and your other friends is to actually 'Go Get A Life' and the world is actually a bigger place with so much of other things and places that will need your attention besides this trivial matter. By the way, in response to MF's comments on "Only when you are experiencing bad times, then you'll started to see clearly who's your 'true' friends are!" do you actually think this is a bad time?! What would you call a death or accident or other tragedies in life then?! Hmmmm... But then again, come to think of it, it is a bad time for the writer though as 'SHE HAS NOT REACH PUBERTY YET AND IS STILL THINKING LIKE A 8 YEAR OLD KID!" I don't want to friend you anymore, (sulk!) right?! Hahahahahaha!
Cheers!
when i said bad times, i did not refer to the current situation.
and i rest my case :)
hi PC! who's the moron who commented..should look in the mirror i guess, i guess it's pretty clear who doesn't have a life with such a long comment and on what? nothing much which i think is erm...between the person's ears...
ps to anonymous..next time have some guts and leave ur name...
hey yean!! it's cool. i think the comments are doing a fine job proving a point ;)
Hi Yean!
I am anonymous to the blog's writer and you, hence I shall be known as that. I am sorry for sounding rude to Ms Poh Chin and I hope that you are not offended by my crude remarks as some may think so. Meanwhile, I feel that you should have the guts to point out the names that was mentioned as team A and team B members and people from team A and team B should have the guts to put their name down as well while stating their point. They are not anonymous to you nor them to you unlike me... ;)
What a great blog you have.....recently. camps, groups, infighting, offence, defense, sabotaging friendships.
I saw the first comment from MF, and it caught my attention which i think would make a great topic of conversation. "Insurance selling friends", add with MLM friends(multi level marketing).
I'm not sure what he or she meant when "if you start doing insurance, you get to see who your real friends are"....hmmmm.....
Scenario 1 - i sell insurance but my friends don't want to buy them from me = bad friends or bad policies from mediocre insurance firm? smart friends but not supportive?
Scenario 2 - a friend of mine sells insurance or does MLM that i haven't seen or talk to in years call me up for "drinks"....and all of the sudden takes interest in my health, the priority i must have for my family or questions my method of making a living.... = insincere friend trying to take advantage of me or true friend who really cares of my being and want the best for me by buying their product or becoming their downline?....
Scenario 3 - i buy insurance from a friend because i only like the person/ not the products = bad friend/good customer or good friend/dumb customer?
Good Topic I think, i'm sure everyone has these experience or can relate to it.
Cheers!
Hi Anonymous 6,
My comments are not meant to create a topic to debate in this blog! It's just a message from me to Poh Chin.
Different ppl have different expectation and eventually came out with different opinion.
The 3 scenarios above may or may not be relevant, it's depend on how you digest it.
Wow! Wait a minute. Sorry let me intro myself. Jaimie, PC's classmate, 2 kids, and I am the type of friend that PC has who doesn't keep in touch with her but knows who she is inside out. She is as pure as a child, and will fiercely protect the people that she cares and loves. That is her beauty. She is very strong, forgiving and very very un-petty.
I guess by her posting something like that in her blog is her way of expressing that she felt that her friends are not being treated nicely... and she wished that her friends were treated better. That doesn't mean she is petty.
Though I totally agree that there are very much bigger life out there, sorry to say miss / mr anonymous, you'd better be living to see more "life" out there than to comment / judge PC based on one incident. I am a mother of two, so you'd better be having 3 kids.. or else stop talking about bigger life out there.
See, from where we came from (the Subang people), and in between my bigger life of juggling kids, in laws, career, parents and earning big bucks in Singapore, I'd like to stand tall and announce to all, that I am proud to have a friend like PC, cause that is the kind of friendship that we have. Some relationships that other people have not, do not, and will not understand. And having those high standards I expect to treat her friends in such regards too, though I not necessarily know her friends.
What is the "big life out there"? Countries are having wars due to the same reasons you all having the comments fight. Is earning big money or being famous considered the "big life out there"? I guess the people here just use it as an excuse to defend themselves. So sad. All lives are equal, no bigger no smaller. All these self-protecting comments only make your life smaller in your own standard. Why not consider the feeling of others and find reasons to be friends and make your life bigger, to forgive.
(Jaimie). Dear Mr. / Miss Anonymous, well I can see this subject had irked you in some ways. Obviously of all the things I wrote, you had intended to choose the one that reflects the most selfish (earning big bucks, so called) portion of it and compares it with war. It's ok I forgive you. For the record,(in my small world based by my standard, unquote) if you are a parent you would know that big bucks or small bucks goes to the kids, the aged parents,the aged in laws, the sibblings' education, and to put decent food on the table. But like you said again, it is nothing compared to the war out there. Obviously you are from the army.
May I lightly draw a conclusion about you.
1. You have a big heart,
2. you feel for bigger things in life,
3. you hate war,
4. you hate people who are petty
5. You reply bloggers to kill time.
6. You obviously don't know PC enough.
7. You like attention, but choose to remain unknowned...
8. You fight for your country and your people.
Interesting creature.... Well you are not a bad person, you are a good person, in fact. It's just that PC happens to have friends whom are very protective of her.
Hey why not we all be friends?
Hi Jamie!
I guess working in Singapore has got to your head! Does having 2 kids makes you more important than me? Does having two kids make you great that i have to 3 kids to talk to you. So you earn big bucks in Singapore is living the bigger life? So you "Subang people" are superior to cheras or klang people? and inferior to mont kiara and bangsar people? F**k you! You talk as though you are a godsent martyr through your hardship in juggling the big life, that we "less people from Malaysia" should listen to you? True sacrifices goes unnoticed...and are appreciated and honoured in kind.... but i guess you would want to us less people to give you a standing ovation?
Having 2 kids is a way of appreciating them to bring out the best in us. If you think it gives you bragging rights to tell the world you have so much to sacrifice, i hope your kids could read and understand what you wrote, to see that their mother finds them troublesome. My mother have 3 kids, and never has she once ever bragged how she endured the hardship of raising them and making it a prequalification of people to judge other people.
I have two kids too, but im not bragging..... :)
Hey anonymous with 2 kids...love you comments about Jaimie whose living in SG.....forgive her.....she's iving there and for sure she has the singaporean KIASU and KIASI attitute embedded in her.....having kids or being a mom should soften a woman's heart with her motherly nature and can judge situation differently....but sounds like Jaimie can't cope with it well as she should be....Time to get some HELP Jamie!!! HAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!
Dear Mr. Anonymous with F**k word, shame on you to use the word in this blog of PC. Jaimie is right that i do not know PC enough, and in fact i think her comments was nice to everyone. The F**k word you mention, Buddha once said, if you wanted to give a person a gift, and the person does not accept the gift, in the end the gift will still belong to you. To Jaimie, I don't think she will accept your F**k word, that means, the word goes back to you. If we are teasing singaporean KIASU and KIASI, we ourselves already became KIASU, otherwise, why bother?
But i guess everyone is having fun here comments fighting, debating, and afterall, everyone still friends. If not friends, then don't waste your time on all these, you won't have the power to change everyone here. If you still want to be friends with everyone here but enjoy the debating session or comments fighting here, great, let's continue. But have to say, PC, I'm Sorry.
Look who's being childish at the moment with issues that cannot be dealt with.
Again, whats with us having to point out names of team a team b or what not members, if you've got a point to make, make it and i'm sure you're proud of making it. So, leave a name then.
sensitive eh ppl? let's all bring it out in the open eh? let's start with names, i know one person plays tennis (i thought that would have tired u out)...APPRENTLY NOT!
neways suggest you all sort it out la..issues...issues...
p.s anonymous with apparent issues?
didn't really bother to read ur full rantings but aiyah..take it easy la.
i think there are some ppl out there which is just refusing the see the messages being delivered and are deliberately picking out minor stuff to blow way out of proportion. i am glad jaimie does not see it fit to further waste her time refuting such comments! :) but ppl, do keep it coming! KAKAKAKAKAKKAKKAKKKA
like yean says though, take it easy. i think it would be apparent to all, what superb friends i have. those who are concluding things about them through which ever point they wish to magnify... "your loss"...
kiasi i suppose include remaining anonymous? you would know better. being protective is very motherly. i suppose u definitely don't know that much.
What's wrong with the F**K word?! Poh Chin uses it all the time while playing tennis (after every bad shot and bad serve). What's wrong with that?! She's my friend and whatever she does is RIGHT!.............................................................
Let me justify her actions for you (thats what loyal friends do), she's competitive, believes that swearing will improve her tennis and under the assumption that her tennis friends love her swearing at court.
Love you Poh Chin!
I hear so much sarcasm in the air, Mr Annoynomous who is now trying to be 'Yean'.
If you have somethins to say, pls USE YOUR OWN NAME!
the cell... good name you have there...
may i likely draw a conclusion on you
A. You must be conceived in prison
B. Either one or both of your parents are convict to give you this name
C. You must be a really small person in life to call yourself 'the cell'
D. You would really like to renew yourself but you can't do so b'coz you have a really horrible name.
E. You yourself is a convict, do they have free internet in there?
You must be also an interesting creature... hey why not we all be friends.
Anything you say Mr/Ms Annonymous. If you have a problem with the items being written here or whatever group A group B stuff, go take it out on someone else.
And if you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything then. Save us the trouble.Obviously, you seriously have some issues on what had happened.
And yes, I have free internet.
And for the record, in case it's not too CLEAR for ppl (ie Mr/Ms Annony) to know, the item commented by 'Yean' at 10.14 am was not by the real Yean.
That was what I meant by, pls USE YOUR OWN NAME!
(Jaimie). Hey. The real Jaimie here. I did not comment on the cell. Someone has used my name to draw a conclusion on the cell. Geez. I think it's obvious we know who.
Gotta go. Have to fetch my mother in law to the airport.
looks like i will have to moderate the comments. mr anonymous has ran amok. now masquerading as my other friends and trying to provoke them further. how cowardly is that?
now, i am not going to waste my time any further on this person. so, this pest will have to be eliminated.
Poh Chin. Who is that Mr. Anonymous moron that posted nasty comments and thinks that he is supercool? What a classic chicken. Anyway, I feel sorry for that loser. Getting angry over his comments will only bring ourselves so low to his level. Not worth it.
U Anonymous prick, go get a life! WE LOVE U POH CHIN!!
From,
Yih Keat
Anonymous, ya. you that goes around picking on other people. If u have the guts, leave your name and contact number whenever u post a comment. I'll be more than happy to smack some sense in that tiny brain of yours.
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