c'est la vie

one of the saddest things in life must be to see your parents age. 

overnight success

a post inspired by a TEDX talk about overnight success. 

https://youtu.be/_azujpI4tmE

the speaker speaks about how "overnight success" does not happen overnight. the success came from pursuing your goals for years despite none success. so step one, give a thought to what is the life that you want. think about "what do you want". what is success to you? success is different to different people. step two, be brave to say it out loud and to take yourself seriously. to be honest about what you wanted. then step three, pursue the goal relentlessly. and trust that it will happen. sounds a little like the law of attraction? goals are allowed to change. but whatever it is at this point in time, take calculated risks, make sacrifices in pursuit of it. diversify your approach. the path will not be clear. but with dedication, the only question is how long it will take you to become an overnight success.

so step one. the life i want. 

be clear that to be happy, i do not need the following. however, one should have goals, yes? 

i would like to have a life partner who would loves me wholeheartedly. who would make me a priority in whatever he does. who would give me space and privacy, but be there for me always. and i would like to be the same for him. to be there the way he would want me to be there for him.

i would like to have good friends. not many, but good quality friends who would have fun good times with me and who would understand what i need in the bad times. friends whom i can laugh with. and i would be the same for them.

i would like for my parents to feel safe and loved and taken care of. to feel they will always have enough. i would like for them to feel carefree. 

i would like to have a portfolio of investments that is generating a comfortable amount of passive income per month. 

i would like to have a small house with a big nice bathroom, a big comfortable bed. comfortable shoes. a nice kitchen. a nice garden... not sure how this would be achieve since i once killed a cactus..., with very little "stuff". a nice comfortable sofa with a nice big tv. a work space for me and a work space for him.

i would like to be healthy. which means i would like to be a good healthy weight. slim. doing yoga and meditation. looking good. 

i would like to have a job/ business where i can work from home. using my strength which is apparently ideation, strategic thinking, relator - authenticity being main ingredient of a relationship, individualization where i value each person's qualities... i do love looking for a win-win. i have to think this through. what type of job would allow me to utilize these strengths best.

what have you learnt about people

saw a video on social media by BuzzFeed Video - what did you learnt about people that was so surprising? 

*you figure out who can trust, you take them with you all the way. you make life good for them. they make life good for you.

*most people are having affairs.

*give them a little something without being obvious and they will potentially feel obliged to give back to you.

*we are all the same. everybody is built the same. we act the same way. we want the same thing. we just look different to each other. but if we are really honest, you will find that we are all the same. - pc -

*When u discover people are not what they seem to be - portray alter egos depending on the crowd they are in. They feel a need to play to an audience - whether out of insecurities or a narcissistic need for adulation or to be centre of attention. There is almost a fear of being their genuine self. - sasha - 

i will continue to collect this! anybody would like to contribute? please comment.

review - mei yen

mei yen - this restaurant i used to frequent for charcoal hokkien mee, lala and grilled fish. a far cry from what it was. grilled fish is no longer there. hokkien mee and lala - mediocre at best. 

lor bak? don't get me started! nothing like its picture. displayed as RM8.50, but sold at RM15 - claiming that price stated is for 1 roll though minimum order is 2 rolls. 

positive note? they now accept e-wallets.