Live to 100: Secrets of the Blue Zone

Check this out on Netflix. A must-watch!

a docu-series on how to live well. very insightful. very interesting. especially since i have been told by some goldies that they would like to do more, but they now lack energy... or are short of breath... or have pains in their knees... you get the picture.

which leads to the next question. when do we stop working? do we stop working? should we stop working? is working and enjoying life mutually exclusive? what does it mean to enjoy life?

i only know of one person who has retired early. in his forties. and apparently he is enjoying himself. playing golf. keeping healthy. stress free. spending time with family and friends. i suppose enjoying life would be different for everybody. but doing what you love, keeping healthy and stress free, spending time with family and friends sounds about right way to go about it? 

i suppose i can survey goldies to find out if they would have managed retirement any differently? planned better? got into less debt? buy less? buy more? retired earlier? travelled more? travelled less? it would be interesting to find out. 

i would be considered goldies to the younger people. what can i share? what have i learnt so far? if there is ever a time you are concerned about what other people may think. don't. people think about you far far less than you can imagine. the best way to convey this message so far, was to ask - have you attended a wedding before? did you believe you have to dress very well for the wedding? when you see photos of the said wedding, who do you normally look for in the picture? (the answer, if one is honest, would be myself) and then perhaps you would look for the person that you have an interest in, and maybe you would look for the bride and bridegroom. everybody would have done the same. so, if you have a wedding to attend, don't be too worried about the dress you are wearing, how you look. create the memories you want with the people you are with. enjoy the wedding. don't worry about what everybody else thinks. tell yourself, whether you like me or not, is mind over matter - i don't mind and you don't matter. because the right people will like you for you. this is not saying go to the wedding in your pjs, but it is not the end of the world if people are seeing you in the same dress that you wore to the event you attended last year. (edit: based on my bestie's input - what if wearing a different dress makes you superbly happy? then by all means, get the dress! coz then you are doing it for you!)

applicable for a whole lot of other things in life. 

and oh, EVERYTHING is temporary. so, try not to fret. things will blow over. and everything will somehow be alright again. it may not be the same. but it would be alright.