mission

i think old people should live better. it seems my life mission will be to enable the elderly to live well... my ideas seems geared in that direction. 

there was the if i am a gazillionaire, i will build a paradise for the elderly... a place just outside the city, by the beach, where the elderly live their golden years in bliss. where they can meet friends, unfriend, date, have sex, break up, get married, get divorced.... have all the drama they had when they were young. where they can find their soul mates, share hobbies, share secrets, share joy, share fears. where they feel independent, cherished, valued and important. 

then there is the super wearable - which would detect if someone has a fall, sends emergency messages to pre-determined emergency contacts, able to share location, automatically connects to an ambulance service which will bring you to the nearest hospital/ nearest hospital of your choice depending on the urgency of the situation, clear your insurance as you are on the way.... apparently this is partially in existence. i suppose creating an eco-system does sound challenging. 

there is the community living - where the beautiful, capable ladies i know do not experience a sense of urgency to get married with an undeserving man just because the rest of her friends have found a partner and because she feels the need to secure her own lifelong companion. which nowadays is not lifelong anyway. because she now has the option to live with a group of friends who will support one another, share resources, cook and share meals, share pools and other common infrastructures, car pool, emotionally support one another as they live like families since families are getting smaller, and smaller.... good news would be apparently the property developers are looking at this direction. 

let's not forget GeriAce - my school for the seniors, set up in abandoned malls that are already equipped with wheelchair ramps and elevators. we can make good use of the buildings which may otherwise be abandoned monstrous eye sores. the seniors can learn how to start gardens or farms, how to use the internet (though I cannot imagine being the instructor), how to dance, arrange group tours, create small businesses and support each other.

my employment also seems to revolved around the elderly - first left atrial appendage, then transcatheter aortic valve implantation....

and most recently, COVID-19 pandemic has given me the opportunity to see how many parents has been living. i want something better for them....

so perhaps i that shall be my life mission~

in the spirit of abundance, i share these ideas and invite the whole world to achieve the same or more!!

what are you doing later?

"what are you doing later?"

i have been getting this question lately... and i find myself answer "dunno... dinner with friends maybe? nothing much really"...

should i be doing something more constructive with all the time i have?

on hindsight, i'm actually quite happy to be able to give that answer. quite different from times when i had so little time i had to plan what i want to do when i am driving/ in the shower/ walking from destination A to B/ eating... a nice change from feeling like i am chasing after the seconds at every moment. and i was always late! (now, not always late... but i suppose a big improvement from before, when it seems that my time is the most precious in the whole wide world!)

also nice to be able to spend time with those who matter. and not just feel guilty about not being able to do so.

nice to not feel that doing nothing is a waste of time. because it is actually quite nice to be able to do nothing at all.

read. it is nice to have some time to read. read stuff that are not must reads.

worth it?

the more money we earn, the better our lives would be. we can afford a big house, maid(s), the car we want, maintain hobbies, eat well, et cetera...

is that true? i suppose to a certain extent. but when do we stop? how much is enough? it's so easy to get use to having more money. so difficult to adjust to having less. how much unhappiness do we tolerate until we say enough is enough? how far do we push ourselves?

i suppose we would wonder why how some ppl do it? earn so much, work so hard, stay so happy, stay so healthy, look so good? do we know of such ppl?

i suppose all those are a little bit difficult to quantify. only we would know if we have earned enough and feel happy enough. i suppose we are the only ones who can define the limits. everybody has a price. i suppose as long as we have not submitted the letter/ argued with our partners/ argued with our bosses/ questioned by the stakeholders/ been fired!, it would mean expectations of both parties are still being met, we are still delivering, money is still too good to be given up.

nobody should be telling you what to give up. because it is your decision to make. but make the decision before something critical is given up eg. your soul! do that, or perhaps manage stakeholder's expectations (lower it!)

what can friends do? i suppose support is essential. understand the that time to meet up would be less. understand that sometimes, work would not allow yam cha, understand that juggling work, family and friends are not easy. create no pressure from this end? that's what friends are for. (alittle bit of whining should be allowed tho! ;) )

self employment... means working for me... why not?

i have always wanted my own business. for as long as i can remember. i wanted to see my ideas come to live. even if sometimes it seems a little bit out of this world. (though nowadays my ideas are more grounded... i think i only get out-of-this-world kinda ideas when i'm stressed out, or when i have no time to pursue them)...

then just a couple of days ago, i met this fella who seems pretty knowledgeable. and so i ask the question that i have asked a couple of hundred ppl... "knowing what u know now, if u are brought back to x number of years, when you were still working for another person.... would you have quit corporate world, and do your own business? or would you have stayed on?"

he says he would have still made his exit. because he does not like the politics one has to face when in corporate. he would also have left because he wanted the work life balance he has, the freedom to choose how hard he work. but he says... to be rich... the certain route will be to work higher management in corporate world. then invest the money saved in properties. due to low likelihood of a business surviving nowadays...

sounds reasonable.

but i still want my own business. time to re-read blue ocean strategy...

anyways, business and investment is not mutually exclusive rite? all the wise ppl out there... what say u?

how do u know he/ she is "THE ONE"?

1) when u see him/ her, got spotlight effect. sometimes, angels sing.

2) you never ever want to see him/ her hurt. never want to see an ounce of pain in his/ her eyes.

3) u just like. cannot stop thinking. cannot explain. more than u like urself?

4) heart do a double somersault? and another one and another.... u feel faint?

has anybody actually experienced any of the above?? or any other "signs"? care to share?


of course all these are "at that moment" ler... nothing lasts forever. again, one will never know if it's the best choice. just have to decide, and stick to it. easier said than done? well, yea. that's life. deal with it. maybe the biggest mistake would be to think? can decide by just "feel"? is that wise? would that be a bigger mistake? listen to friends? even more bigger mistake and so "high school"... sigh.

wah... dunno ler. can some of the happy-ever-after ppl shed some light?