acceptance

it is difficult seeing our parents age. why? because we are fighting it. why are we fighting it? because they have been our heroes all these while. and we are rejecting the idea that age has brought about a decline. we are wondering why can't they try harder to stay alert. we have seen it. we have seen elderly people who have kept their minds sharp. we have seen those who stayed focused on finishing their sentences. so it is unacceptable that they are not trying harder. 

but what if they are trying, but that is what they can managed? what if they are aware of the decline and are also afraid of what is happening? what if they do not know what can be done stop the decline? or perhaps they have come to accept the change. we did not liked being compared to our peers. so i suppose the same would apply no matter what the age. we cannot compare one goldie to another.  

and really, why fight something that is not within control? if we don't fight it, that would mean we accept it. would acceptance bring a faster decline? i have no idea. but i suppose the process would be easier than if we keep pushing them to reject aging. it would happen one way or another. so, acceptance is key. perhaps it is kinder? perhaps the objective would be how to age gracefully vs how not to age. perhaps acceptance of them as they are, would bring more happiness.