marriage...

how is it like?

to be married?

for the unmarried, how do you envision it to be? married life?




a good guy friend said " erm, less hair, more tummy, milk stained shirt...."!!

"oh, i've always been a homely guy. but must keep somtime open for friends la. kenot 100% family, wife and kids. no friend kenot la."

do u think u'll laugh more? do u think u'll be more lovey? how do u think it'll be diff?

"dunno leh. depends on the kid's character. I might enjoy father hood, or i may become a grouch. who knows. kids can be devil incarnate if they want to."

what if no kids? will u think about adopting?

"if no kids, then it's wife and me. i suppose we'll need to keep spicing things up. must have personal interests and common interests loh. i'm not sure if i'm the adopting kind. i'd rather settle for a dog."

will there be ill feelings? if no kids? blame each other kinda thing? u think?

"can't blame God's will. but can try to get professional help. who knows, maybe been doing it wrong, rite?!"




another victim of my interrogation said...

"no, i wont stay at home more."

but got kids? then how? babysitter?

"yup.....that's the trend now"

so not much diff from if single?

"even u r married with kids....i believe u need a life of ur own as well

more lovey dovey? still like dating? do u think u'll need more space instead??

"nope.....worse, if have kids ur love will be devoted to the kids oredi. no more between u n ur partner... a couple definitely need private space besides kids

so u'll set aside time to be just u and him?

"if not the relationship gets distance"

if no babies how? will u adopt?

"no... basically....kids will eventually come useful...in long term... no dogs too (if no babies)"

useful???

"as company.. also entertainment at times!! hahahaahhaha"

ic ic :)




a married friend said...

"apple and durian"

???more interesting? more secure? what talking u?

"mmphh... none of the above. I mean cannot compare single life with married life... it's like apple and durian. Apple is single life. it's predictable. sweet on outside and sometimes inside. if sour inside... from outside cannot tell. will still look sweet. as for durian, it's thorny... but harmless. it's tough when you see it. once you open it.. it's where you enjoy it. but marriage... everyday you have to open the durian."

???

"and have to touch a few thorns... then only enjoy the fruit. everyday there will be challenges. thorns are challenges. especially when you have kids. cause it's no longer about you. it's always about the daughters, when they are sick, the visiting in laws, own parents.... etc. different career path. no time for each other. different priorities. different way of bringing up kids...etc... but once you overcome that... you get to taste the durian. but you can't taste the durian without hurting yourself before opening the durian...got it?"

i think so... no more time for u and partner?

"oh yes... definitely no more time... if you make time for your partner.. you will feel guilty"

wouldn't it be like a business liao? friends would have time for each other... then if friends get together and do business together, they probably have less time to do stuff like before... but both will be working towards a business objective, but doing different roles or handling different projects... but not as fun as when they were just going for mamaks??

"mmphhh.. yes, if you put it that way. cause once you 'entered' the business, you have no choice but to make it right... it comes naturally to make it right... the expense of each other. it's like... this time I sacrifice.. the next will be your turn"




actual is different from how it is envisioned to be? looks like getting married is like setting up a business... partnership. employees are the kids. which you have to invest in. it seems that husband and wife will work on different roles, quite independently... to achieve financial goals?? (in asia, it seems like that is the main goal)...

your tots?