overnight success

a post inspired by a TEDX talk about overnight success. 

https://youtu.be/_azujpI4tmE

the speaker speaks about how "overnight success" does not happen overnight. the success came from pursuing your goals for years despite none success. so step one, give a thought to what is the life that you want. think about "what do you want". what is success to you? success is different to different people. step two, be brave to say it out loud and to take yourself seriously. to be honest about what you wanted. then step three, pursue the goal relentlessly. and trust that it will happen. sounds a little like the law of attraction? goals are allowed to change. but whatever it is at this point in time, take calculated risks, make sacrifices in pursuit of it. diversify your approach. the path will not be clear. but with dedication, the only question is how long it will take you to become an overnight success.

so step one. the life i want. 

be clear that to be happy, i do not need the following. however, one should have goals, yes? 

i would like to have a life partner who would loves me wholeheartedly. who would make me a priority in whatever he does. who would give me space and privacy, but be there for me always. and i would like to be the same for him. to be there the way he would want me to be there for him.

i would like to have good friends. not many, but good quality friends who would have fun good times with me and who would understand what i need in the bad times. friends whom i can laugh with. and i would be the same for them.

i would like for my parents to feel safe and loved and taken care of. to feel they will always have enough. i would like for them to feel carefree. 

i would like to have a portfolio of investments that is generating a comfortable amount of passive income per month. 

i would like to have a small house with a big nice bathroom, a big comfortable bed. comfortable shoes. a nice kitchen. a nice garden... not sure how this would be achieve since i once killed a cactus..., with very little "stuff". a nice comfortable sofa with a nice big tv. a work space for me and a work space for him.

i would like to be healthy. which means i would like to be a good healthy weight. slim. doing yoga and meditation. looking good. 

i would like to have a job/ business where i can work from home. using my strength which is apparently ideation, strategic thinking, relator - authenticity being main ingredient of a relationship, individualization where i value each person's qualities... i do love looking for a win-win. i have to think this through. what type of job would allow me to utilize these strengths best.